"If you want to see the true measure of a man, watch how he treats his inferiors, not his equals." -- J. K. Rowling

How to be Smarter: When feeling frustrated by the small annoyances of everyday life (like the wait time at the deli counter, or being stuck in traffic), refocus your attention and force yourself to count to 100. Very rarely will you actually reach 100 before the annoyance has passed, and focusing on something mundane that still requires attention (counting) will take your mind off the temporary nuisance. How to be Prettier: At work, when deciding on flavors of candy from the receptionist’s desk jar, chose red, white, or clear pieces; these shades are less likely to have your mouth turn a colorful hue before a meeting.

How to be (less) Awkward: When you’re dining out, if you’re unsure whether or not to order an appetizer or what price point to choose off the menu, casually ask the other person what they are thinking of getting (“what looks good to you?”) before the server comes to get an idea of how you should direct your selection.

This was originally written for Parade magazine; you can read all my Parade columns here. xo, Molly